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Clearing Things Up

On finding out I am a SAHM I almost always hear “I wish my husband made enough so I didn’t have to work.” this is a point I would like to clear up. He doesn’t and I work much harder than he does.

I can’t afford to be a SAHM but I can’t afford not to even more. With only one car and my husbands uncertain, often changing at the last-minute hours it has been almost impossible for me to find work. Believe me we sat down and did the math my working outside the home would cost more in gas and childcare than I would get paid all this assuming I had a second car to even get to work.

No its cheaper, for my family anyway for me to stay home, but that does not mean I can afford it. Our income does not cover all our bills and every month at least one is late. We get by through careful budgeting , limited spending, taking care not to waste and going without. Not with out necessities of course and my kids never feel the pinch but my husband and I cut corners everywhere. We don’t have television (channels we do have a tv to watch movies), we don’t go out, I save every drop of things like shampoo and cleaners so not a drop is wasted, nothing I wear fits since I have no clothes of my own and just wear my husbands.

I am not complaining about my life don’t mistake that we are very happy and content in life I just wanted to say that we my husband doesn’t make all the money people seem to think he does. As to SAHM not being work that’s just a whole nother story and all I can say is my husband would never trade his work for mine even when he hated where he worked because he openly admits my job is harder, so you know it must be true because no man would admit that a woman works harder than him if it wasnt true.


All In Good Fun

During my husbands mid morning nap the other day I realized why the praying mantis, black widow spiders and scorpions eats their mates. The obvious reason of course being who doesn’t enjoy a post coitus snack. However as I cleaned my house as my husband slept I realize they do it to save them their sanity and to avoid the stress brought on by the males of the species.

The praying mantis clearly knew what she was doing, with kids on the way that she would now have to share her food with why would she keep around a man who was just going to eat the last of the ice cream and not go out and buy more. Not to mention the money she was saving not having to feed him three meals a day with about six or seven snacks in between. With fewer dishes to wash and less time spent at the grocery store not having to go back through the cart and pull out all the junk her mate put in when she wasn’t looking the praying mantis is truly a brilliant woman.

I’m sure though that the black widow spider considered keeping her mate, hey who knows maybe he will help with all the diapers and chores around the web. Alas she quickly found out that he was just one more child and one more chore she would have to take care off, so she ate him. The male of the species was not contributing to the society of her home, he changed no diapers, fixed no bottles, did not one load of laundry, nor did he wash a single dish. I’m sure however that he did complain about the way she did all of these things and considered it his contribution. So I for one do not blame the black widow spider for ridding herself of her mate.

Laziness an inherent trait amongst the males of most if not all species, spending most of their time napping. If you don’t believe me ask the lioness who hunts and raises cubs while the lion lays about. Unlike the lioness the scorpion would not put up with it and poisoned her over sleeping excessively napping self. The first night he woke her up at 2 am on the first night the baby had stayed a sleep and tried to seduce her was his last. The total disregard for the importance of sleep to mother just because he got as much as he wanted and the audacity when that he would complain of tiredness more than justified her actions.

I have considered before taking a page out of the book of the praying mantis, black widow spider, or the scorpion, but like the lioness I put up with it because I love him. He should be wary of me though and perhaps clean up his act because I haven’t ruled it out entirely.